Guest Post by Lucille Rosetti
After the loss of a loved one who shares your home with you, you may look around your house and realize it’s just not home anymore. There may be too much room, too much stuff, or too many memories for you to want to continue living there. Or perhaps you see this as an opportunity to live somewhere you have always wanted to. Whatever your motivations, there are a couple things you should consider.
First, moving has to be your decision. It can’t be someone else's. Even if you are just going across town, moving is a huge life change with various implications. If you're not 100 percent sure you want to relocate, it may not be the best option. Make sure you give yourself some time to ensure you make the move for yourself instead of a knee-jerk reaction.
Second, support is imperative when grieving the loss of a loved one. If moving will separate you from your support system, is it a healthy thing to do? It’s important to recognize whether you want to move for healthy reasons or if you are just trying to run away from your problems. There’s nothing wrong with seeking a fresh start, but if you want to avoid difficult emotions and problems, they will catch up with you no matter where you are.
Moving Tips for the Grieving
If you know you want to move, and it’s for the right reasons, you're not alone. Many people decide that leaving their house, downsizing, and relocating are productive ways to move on. Below are some helpful tips and resources to make the process go smoother.
After the loss of a loved one, you may find yourself wishing you could move and leave the pain behind. It’s important to take your time when making decisions and not to rush into anything drastic. However, if you’ve waited over a year and you still want to move, do it smartly. Go through your loved one’s things slowly and clean out some of your own stuff while you are at it. Find professionals who can help; don’t take on everything on your own. Finally, make smart decisions when listing your house for a fast and successful sale.
Certified appraiser for estates, inheritances and trusts.
Dr. Elizabeth Stewart's column appears every week in the Salon & Style section of the Santa Barbara News Press. Email her your questions and high-resolution photos at ElizabethAppraisals @ gmail.com
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